Saturday, November 14

Controllable vs. Uncontrollable

It has to be human nature to focus on the uncontrollable, yet it is such a waste of the good that is within us.

It's true to say that I have a big heart mixed with being very stubborn. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, well, it's o.k. just try not to let it happen again. Fool me three times, what...are you kidding... A few weeks later, ouch that hurt, this time I mean it...Please don't do it again. The cycle continues until finally I bow out with my tail between my legs with my heart bound in duct tape. Unless you have Goo Gone, there is always a sticky residue left in place of the tape.

Then there is the controllable, me. I am in charge of my destiny. I am responsible for my actions. I do know the truth whether I choose to except it or not. It is also up to me how I choose to handle any situation that I am in.

Instead of allowing myself to focus on the uncontrollable I've been making a big effort (with a few set backs) to focus on what I have, who I am and want to be. With Thanksgiving just around the corner, I'm kick starting my thankful (controllable) and forgetting the rest (uncontrollable).

I guess talking about it makes it real, not easier.


Stacy's Snippets said...

Thanks Ann, this is so helpful for me right now. Letting go of the scary yet how brilliant!

Happy SITSsatruday...your comment was right before mine...guess you are up too early on a saturday as well.

Unknown said...

That is such a liberating thought! Thanks for sharing!

~from my front porch in the mountains~ said...

I love it!
I needed!

Mitzi said...

Great blog=you are on the right track!

Jill said...

I think this is a life long process and a sign of maturity. Apparently 38 is the magical number eh? I was talking to my sisters at game night last night and was referring to my own maturity (which raised their eyebrows) but I just meant that I was getting better at handling certain things and following through with things as I get older.

~from my front porch in the mountains~ said...

Hello again,
No, I don't ride anymore! I have Fibrmyalgia, have had several back & neck surgeries from breaking in young ones over the years...and just the daily grind of working for so many years in the field. They believe my Fibro is from so many compression injuries.
I am happy to be in the barn each day with my 5, not 100!!

What kind of research do you and hubs do?

My email is

Liz Mays said...

I like your new perspective and I'm not surprised to hear you're just a big old softie!

elvira pajarola said...

BEST of IT: FOCUSING on what I have, who I am and who I want to be........!
Thank's and have a great day!!!!
ciao elvira

Missy said...

Oh, how I need to identify the uncontrollable and stop trying to control! Great post!

Debbie said...

Such brilliance! My life would be so very much better if I let the uncontrollable go.