Sunday, November 29

They Talk A Lot...

The Weight of the Invisible Hand...


Well look who's trying to surface.... It's perfect timing you know. The "what will they think" and the "what if they do not like....".

It's the "they" platoon who slowly come from the head and out of the mouth without a lot of thought. Or, maybe it starts in the head, lingers there for a few days, weeks then falls from the tongue and out of the lips without using the heart.

Why do we do this to ourselves? (Head banging against the wall, repeat-repeat ...get a cold cloth for the redness and swelling.)

Who are "they"? A select few, masses of the unknown or collection of everyone? People we emulate or despise?

Why are "they" important? Is that a trick question? No. Let's start with this, fitting in is so much easier than not. (A major reason "they" creep into our thoughts to begin with.) When "they" like you there is less to worry about. In fact, sometimes you feel down right cool. Don't worry, we all try to fit in to some degree. When we let "them" eek in and scoot a little bit of you out starts the problem. There is nothing wrong with you. A natural change is inevitable and also another topic all together. To answer the original question, why are "they" important, well they are not important. It's something we do to ourselves. Giving the power to someone else is something we have total control over. Displaced blame becomes a poor me situation. "They", can make you do some crazy things, but the reality is you are responsible for your own actions. (Ouch, not so fun..)

Were "they" involved in the 80's... you bet. I am taking total responsibility for my hair in the 80's. I was influenced, but a willing participant in the Aqua Net, tease and blow dry hair do. (Smile)

Allowing them to nestle in the insecurities within yourself is destructive. It is just a matter of time before we start to mistake "their" thoughts for our own.

"Own it....work it Girl" perhaps, Pretty Women isn't the best movie to reference here. (Smile) But hey, be proud of who you are.

(Skimming the surface of "they" thoughts.)
The Weight of the Invisible Hand, is a quote from Adam Smith, The Wealth of Nations.

8 comments:

Jill said...

It's funny, because I am so much more secure with myself and who I am now that I don't usually fret at all about "they". It's when I go back to Michigan and fear running into people who knew me from way back then that I start to freak out. It drives me crazy because I like who I am, it's just my outward appearance that would give them a shock that causes me to fret. I'd really like to conquer that and move on.

I have pictures of you where your Aqua Net look is even higher!

Eva Gallant said...

I have to say that I give as little credence to "them" as possible--I.ve finally reached the age where I don't give a crap!

Missy said...

Love the pic! You are a brave soul! My hair looked similar!

That's Who I Am said...

As crazy as this sounds this post really hit home. I think I am thinking a little deeper maybe then you are lol, but I let "they" take over my thoughts ALL the time. Why do we let other people's feelings about us control our lives? I have done this for the past week and finally let it out to a friend and I feel SO much better. Just in time to read your post and think WOW I am right I need to let it go and move on because I am letting something control my thoughts that is NOT worth it. Thanks for the post even if I did take it a little deeper than you meant and thanks for stopping by my blog from SITS!

MaryRC said...

oh but you were so good at the aqua net do..

"And so our stories go..." said...

My blog mantra is: We'll teach you what the true meaning of "Frankly my dear I don't give a damn!" I try to live that everyday with kindness :-)

minishoes1 said...

I really liked this post! You are 100% right. The hair brings back soooooooo many memories.lol

Joy said...

What a well-thought-out post. I appreciated the read. And the hair? Awesome.